The other night, I was speaking with a woman who said, “When you walk into a room I think, ‘she is fabulous!’ But, I don’t think that’s possible for me.” She shook her head, her face sad, “I’m just trying to be something I’m not.”
Wait! No no no! Her words made me sad.
Though honestly, it’s something I hear a lot. “It’s not for me. I don’t think it’s possible for me to look fabulous.”
This makes me sad too because I think this belief is not based in reality. It is the result of a skewed reality and a lack of conviction that it’s OK and even your supreme right to look how you truly desire. Even fabulous if you want to!
Many women simply don’t know how to make the most of their assets, their body type, or what colors best suit them. This is no crime. If you’re not into it, it doesn’t mean you are any less of a woman or that it’s not possible for you.
It absolutely is, darling! You just need some help.
Can I tell you, the woman who uttered those sad words is a stunner. Tall, shapely, she possesses gorgeous alabaster skin and raven hair with dark eyes and a commanding presence.
She just doesn’t know how to work it! Like Elle Woods said in Legally Blond.
Ladies, you have all the right equipment, you just don’t know how to use it!
That’s a shame and that’s where I come in.
I am shameless about helping you be SEEN. It’s no easy task. Being truly seen as a woman can be fraught with emotion.
Somewhere along the way, we’ve heard we shouldn’t stand out. Especially, not past a certain age. Not to make waves. Not to appear big bold and beautiful. To take up as little space as possible. Don’t outshine other women.
Then, we see another women who shows up lit up and we feel less than. Or, as if it’s not possible for us.
We self-select out. We shrink down. We think, later, someday. When I’m 10, 20 or 50 pounds lighter. When I can fit back into those jeans.
Meanwhile…. we’re conflicted. We love the other woman’s boldness, yet sometimes feel jealous of her agency. We want it, we desire it to our core, yet we feel unable to unleash ourselves and just go for it.
Maybe, we even gossip or secretly hate on her.
Loves! You don’t have to live with this conflict. Don’t do this to yourselves. Take what’s yours. Work the hell out of the best, brightest and most beautiful things about you. The gorgeousness that makes you you.
One of the fashion editors of Harper’s Bazaar and later, editor-in-chief of Vogue, Diana Vreeland, was not a classically beautiful woman. In fact, she had very unique, distinctive features and characteristics that many considered ‘ugly.’ Yet she celebrated these differences in both magazines and showed women how to make the best of their own looks.
Diana’s style advice is still considered the gold standard. She knew how to work it and play up her best assets and those of her readers, urging them never to back down from owning their uniqueness. To be creative.
This is at the heart of where I help you. It’s not just rehanging your clothes or making outfits. It’s helping you be SEEN and in complete ownership of your looks. For the rest of your life.
You can make the choice for yourself. Give yourself permission.
Are you ready?
No one wants to look like some faceless fashion model. You want to look like you. Like your best self. and that is perfectly OK. In fact it’s essential to your looking and living your best life. There is nothing wrong with that. Claim what’s yours. Enjoy what’s yours.
It IS possible for you.